亲密2012

这是一部从朋友U盘拷来的电影，初看题目还以为会有些情色低俗的噱头.看完之后，内心异常感动.残疾人肉体上的残疾的确带来了很大的伤害，但是来自社会对于内心的压力造成的心理阴影是更大的阻碍.男主人公的生存状态展现出来的时候，本身就给人以心得震撼，我们心生怜悯，但是怜悯归于怜悯，就像他第一次追求表白的女孩那样，也许有着心灵上的沟通，但是面对一副丑陋脆弱的皮囊，终究退却了。也许我们都应该学会什么是尊重，我们因为怜悯，所以忽略了他们的性需求，他们的诉求远远不是怜悯，需要我们把他们当正常人对待。男主人公与牧师的对话，他努力地去冲破常规想法，给自己的勇气，爆发出的力量，确是常人难以企及的精神高度.就像Motel的老板Confused的那样，一个残疾人和一个女人，他们怎么能进去这么久.....这是因为他们的绽放是那么的有限而非凡.我们应该感动地为他们的勇气鼓掌，女辅导师的灵魂如此干净令人敬畏。也能照出凡人心中的可耻和懦弱.我们每个人都需要一次心的洗礼.

一句话评论

《亲密治疗》或许是你今年能看到的处理性题材和小儿麻痹症题材最举重若轻的电影了。——《NPR》

影片在看似不可能的题材和情节中找到了幽默和优雅。——《综艺杂志》

在这部讲述残疾人士性爱问题的影片中，导演找到了完全坦诚且异常可爱的处理切入角度。——《好莱坞报道者》

影片的结构是传统的，甚至是程式化的；但是影片的细节和小情感的迸发，却异常地迷人。——《ScreenCrush》

影片主角的不断成长，充满了戏剧化的文静、优雅和幽默--这些，是这部电影的杀手锏。——《卫报》


幕后制作

　　改编自真实的故事
　　影片的故事并不是无中生有的，而是从一个真实的故事改编而来。在影片中，诸位演员所扮演的角色的姓名，就是生活中，这些真实的人的名字。约翰·哈克斯扮演的马克·奥·布莱恩是一个记者兼诗人。小时候，因为没有得到良好的医疗保障，而患上了骨髓灰质炎，造成了高位截瘫。为了维持自己的生命，奥·布莱恩使用了体外呼吸机辅助呼吸，以维持自己的生命。38岁的时候，奥·布莱恩决定要找一个性从业者，也就是一个妓女，来结束自己的处男生涯，从而把自己变成一个男人。

　　他找到的这个性从业者叫做谢丽尔·科恩·格林，是一个从事性工作已经有一些年头的女人。在和奥·布莱恩行房、得到报酬之后，便离开了奥·布莱恩，再也没有和他有任何联系。而奥·布莱恩，则把他的这次性经验写在了自己的文章《体验性治疗》（On Seeing a Sex Surrogate），并发表在了1990年的一期《太阳杂志》上。后来，马克·奥·布莱恩出版了自己的传记，《我是怎么变成人的：残障人士寻求独立》（How I Became a Human Being: A Disabled Man's Quest for Independence）。这本书，除了记述了马克·奥·布莱恩平时的生活起居，更是详细介绍了他对生活、生命以及生命意义的看法。而那次寻找性工作者的"破处经历"也成为了马克·奥·布莱恩从男孩向男人转变，寻求生命意义的里程碑式的事件。

　　1996年，华裔电影人虞琳敏为奥·布莱恩拍摄了一部纪录片《马克·奥布莱恩的生活和工作》，记录了奥·布莱恩带着呼吸机工作生活的故事，而且她还在片中讨论了残疾人士的性生活等等内容。这部纪录短片一经推出就获得了满堂喝彩，尤其是片中奥·布莱恩对自己身体的戏谑的插科打诨，乐观积极的精神，感染了很多人。在1997年的奥斯卡上，这部电影获得了奥斯卡的最佳纪录短片奖。

　　这部电影之后，奥·布莱恩几乎成为了美国残疾人士的榜样，尤其是他那种乐观面对生活、无视身体障碍的精神在一段时间内，成为了最具美国式精神的榜样。三年之后，也就是在1999年，奥·布莱恩因为长期的身体衰弱而去世，享年49岁。

　　同病相怜的导演
　　本片的编辑兼导演本·勒温（Ben Lewin）或许会对奥·布莱恩的生活和经历更有体会，因为他在小的时候也曾经患过脊髓灰质炎。不过，幸运的是，他活了下来，逃过了一劫，并且非常健康。也是出自偶然，勒温才得知奥·布莱恩的故事的。那个时候，勒温正在寻找讲述残疾人士性爱行为的资料，他想就这个话题拍摄一部电影。就这么在网上搜搜点点，他看到了奥·布莱恩的那篇著名的文章《体验性治疗》。看完了文章之后，勒温深受感动，他觉得奥·布莱恩的这篇文章可以被拍成一部完整的影片。勒温说："对我来说，奥·布莱恩的文字是充满情感的，而且也是非常完整的。足够拍摄成一部大电影了。他所撰写的内容，睿智而且机智，充满了智慧和幽默。我能做的，就是在影片中把这些情绪加强，形成戏剧的力量。"在撰写剧本的过程中，勒温把自己与脊髓灰质炎对抗的经历和自己对这种疾病的体验都放入到了故事和人物的身上。而且，在撰写剧本的过程中，他还找到了奥·布莱恩最后岁月的伴侣苏珊·芬巴赫、那个为奥·布莱恩破处的性从业者谢丽尔·科恩·格林，从她们的身上寻找可用的素材。

　　为了寻找到合适的演员，勒温和很多残疾演员进行了会面，可是他都觉得这些演员并不适合这个角色。后来，约翰·哈克斯走进了勒温的视线。为了准备这个角色，哈克斯阅读了奥·布莱恩撰写的所有文章，每一首诗歌，看了纪录片，并且深入研读了剧本。哈克斯说："这些文字都是奥·布莱恩的真情流露。他每每写到动情的地方的时候，都会哽咽并暂停一下。我觉得，这是塑造这个人物的最佳切入点。而且，导演也曾经患过脊髓灰质炎，对他的这种体会感同身受。我在剧本中，能体会到这一点，因为导演所撰写的内容，一样是充满情感的。虽然有着幽默的元素，可是这些情感却并不会因此而消逝。"对于哈克斯的主演，勒温说："我原本是想找一个残疾演员来扮演这个角色的，可是后来我却发现，一个健康的演员来扮演残疾人，更有意义。因为在扮演的过程中，他会比较和对比健康和残疾两个状态，从而表现出更有层次的表演来。"


花絮

·影片的原名叫做《代理》（The Surrogate）。后来改成了现在的The Sessions。

·影片根据马克·奥·布莱恩（Mark O'Brien）的真实的故事改编。

·为了表现出奥·布莱恩弯曲的脊椎，哈克斯在表演的时候，把一个足球大小泡沫放在了自己的背部，以让脊椎弯曲。除此之外，哈克斯还学会了用嘴巴咬着一根木棒来打电话。

Let me touch you with my words

For my hands

Lie limp as empty gloves.

Let my words stroke your hair.

Slide down your back and tickle your belly.

For my hands.

Light and free-flying as bricks.

Ignore my wishes and stubbornly refuse to carry out my quietest desires.

Let my words enter your mind.

Bearing torches.

Admit them willingly into your being.

So they may caress you gently,within.

在huffingtonpost上看到的，觉得有用就转了。
懒得翻译了，只写几点印象深刻的：

CCG没有爱上Mark。（我觉得这一点很重要，电影的设置因为这一点而比现实生活逊色很多，当然我们都能理解为什么要这样编剧本）

曾经有过200多名surrogate，现在只有50名。（经济不景气，需求萎缩啊）

CCG因乳腺癌于2006年切除单侧乳房，她今年（2013）已经68岁，仍然战斗在工作第一线。（这才是为革命事业奋斗终生）

下面是原文：
One of my favorite movies of the year is The Sessions, based on the true story of sex surrogate Cheryl Cohen Greene and her work with Berkeley-based poet and journalist Mark O'Brien, who was confined to an iron lung after contracting polio at age 6. The story is riveting, and comprises the first chapter of Cheryl's memoir, An Intimate Life: Sex, Love, and My Journey as a Surrogate Partner.

For forty years, Cheryl has worked in a career that has helped so many people, yet is greatly misunderstood. Here's what she had to say about her life as a sex surrogate:

Lois Alter Mark: I absolutely loved The Sessions, and thought it was such a beautiful and important story that can really open people's minds. How accurate is the movie and what message do you hope viewers will come away with after seeing it?

Cheryl Cohen Greene: Overall, I'm pleased with the level of accuracy in the movie. Of course, there are some things that the film couldn't show because of time limitations, but they really gave an accurate depiction of my work with Mark. The part about Mark and I falling in love was an exception. I would say we fell in like and we shared some very intense, loving moments. We stayed friends for years.

I hope people will come away understanding how important sexuality is for everyone, including people with disabilities. They have the same needs and desires as those of us who don't live with a physical disability. Additionally, I hope people will have a better sense of who surrogate partners are and the services we provide. We offer people the education and experience that can help them move forward in their lives from a more secure, more knowledgeable place.

LAM: Helen Hunt gives a beautiful performance that has deservedly been nominated for an Academy Award. How did it feel to watch her portray you? Did she have any specific questions before she started? What kind of advice did you give her?

CCG: It was incredible! Helen observed me very closely. She herself has said that I'm a louder person than she is, but I really felt she got my energy into her portrayal. She asked a lot about how I work with people and the range of clients I have. We discussed my work with Mark and how I encouraged him to give me feedback. Once, I read the script to her in my own voice so she could get my Boston accent. She also invited me to her home and I demonstrated sensual touch, an exercise I do with clients, on her partner -- fully clothed. Much of what you see with Helen and John in the movie comes directly from my work with Mark. I did bring a mirror to our sessions so Mark could see himself, and I did touch him in much the same way Helen did.

LAM: Because the movie focuses on just one of your clients, I found it fascinating to read your memoir afterwards. You have lived a very rich life, in a world most people have no idea even exists!

CCG: Thank you. I agree! I've been very fortunate.

LAM: It seems that the biggest misconception about surrogates is that they're no different than prostitutes. The movie and your book clearly show how off-base that perception is. I love that you say you're more like Julia Child than Xavier Hollander, and you compare seeing a surrogate to going to culinary school. Can you explain that a little?

CCG: Well, if you go to a prostitute it's like going to a restaurant. You choose what you want for the menu, you eat and hopefully have a good meal, and then you pay accordingly. If you have a good experience, maybe you'll return or refer friends to them. With a surrogate, it's more like going to culinary school. You learn the recipes, you learn your way around the kitchen, and then you go back to your life equipped with new skills and knowledge. I've yet to find a better metaphor for explaining the difference.

LAM: The world was a very different place when you originally started this career. How did you get into it and what does it take to be good at this job?

CCG: It takes compassion and empathy -- not sympathy, but empathy. It also takes having a very good intuitive sense. Surrogates have a process that we follow, but as the work progressives, it really becomes more individualized and it's important for the surrogate to be able to pick up subtle cues from the client.

I got into because it was meant to be! I had a sexually repressive childhood in which I was taught to believe that sex was dirty and wrong, but also that you were supposed to save it for the one you love. When I was pregnant with my first child, I went into therapy because I wanted my children to have a different and better experience from the one I had. In the process of working on myself, I really had to confront all of the shame and guilt I had about my sexuality. I was eventually able to work through it and free myself of it, even though it was intense. That made me believe that this was possible for others, too, and I wanted to help people not just overcome negative feelings about sexuality, but become more accepting and happy as sexual beings.

LAM: Although sex is all over the place now and it seems like there's a no-holds-barred attitude, the number of surrogates has actually decreased since you started. Why is that? What have been the biggest changes you've seen in our sexual culture over the past 40 years?

CCG: The biggest challenge has always been people's shame and guilt. In the sixties and seventies, people were rejecting that and trying to redefine their attitudes about sex. When AIDS happened, people became understandably scared and surrogates were no exception. A lot of them left the field. Those of us who stayed thought it was frightening too. We made a real effort to understand safer sex and to become condom positive. Most of our clients are low risk because they haven't had a lot of sex, but there was still a certain amount of risk that we faced. We had to have a new dialogue. Before AIDS, we asked if a client wanted to use a condom; now, it's taken as a given that he will, and if he refuses, we won't have intercourse. Surrogates became better sex educators because we had to be much better informed. We were up against something much more serious than syphilis and gonorrhea.

There are only about 50 trained surrogates in the U.S. now. That number was up to around 200 in the seventies. We're trying to find young men and women to come into the field and I hope the movie will spark interest in the profession.

LAM: What's the most difficult part of being a surrogate?

CCG: The most difficult part is probably to not continue to be a surrogate when you're with your partner. We're trained to be highly aware of what the client does and feels. Surrogacy is highly client-centric and the surrogate has to be closely attuned to her client. Sex with a partner is a much more shared experience and you don't want to find yourself becoming a spectator or losing touch with your own body. It took a while for me to learn not to be a surrogate all the time.

LAM: What's the scariest part?

CCG: I don't really find anything scary about my work. People are often surprised to hear that. There have only been very few instances where I felt scared with a client. One I detail in An Intimate Life. The other was with a man who had a lot of unresolved anger at his ex-wife, whom I apparently looked like. All my clients are screened by the referring therapist and it's appropriate for them to be working with me. In truth, surrogacy is, at least initially, probably way scarier for them than it ever is for me.

LAM: You are a breast cancer survivor, and you underwent a mastectomy in 2006. How did that affect your own body image as well as your practice?

CCG: It threw me for a loop at first, but I knew instantly that I didn't want to stop working. I had to learn a new dialogue about my body. I found myself trying to come to grips with the loss of a friend. I loved my breast. I loved the sensation I had in my nipple and it happens that the breast I had removed was the more sensitive of the two. I took a philosophical attitude. I had both breasts at one time in my life, and I enjoyed them, but to be alive was more important.

LAM: How has being a surrogate affected your personal relationships?

CCG: I think I have richer personal relationships because of my work. Who I am and what I do is so different than what others do. I have fabulous friends and a loving husband, and my work has helped me be more empathetic and compassionate with all of them.

LAM: You're 68 years old now and are still working. What's been the most rewarding part of your career? What do you see for the future?

CCG: I'm going to continue my surrogacy practice for as long as I can. I love the idea of having a public platform and being able to do more education. One thing I would absolutely love to do is to serve as a sex educator for parents. How parents address sexuality has a huge impact on kids, and I'd like to make sure it's a positive one. I'd love to help give parents the knowledge and tools they need to raise happy and healthy kids.

no words to say. Just excerpt from his poem.

Let me touch you with my words For my hands Lie limp as empty gloves. Let my words stroke your hair. Slide down your back and tickle your belly. For my hands. Light and free-flying as bricks. Ignore my wishes and stubbornly refuse to carry out my quietest desires. Let my words enter your mind. Bearing torches. Admit them willingly into your being. So they may caress you gently,within.