那般良夜

2020.2.29四年一遇，巧合得看了三部关于死亡的片子。【如果我们生活在一起】、【寂静人生】、【那般良夜】，此间穿插了【红气球】。临睡前看了一下四年前此时的朋友圈，那天看了CCTV6的【青木瓜之味】，也是此般良夜。那段时间还愁着要搬家，呵呵上帝其实给过你信号，只是你没get。抱着想再抢救一下的心情，又复去下载了被自己唾弃的交友软件。我对自己说，这是多么沮丧的情绪，才让我要跟生活低头、屈膝啊！不是刚刚才读了这首“Do not go gentle into that good night,Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”

The problem of ageing is always heavy. Not only do people look at the eternal question of death, but there are also many more problems to be faced at the national and social levels.

That good night, in a slow and peaceful way, tells the story of a struggle with death. In the plain and real life, the past honor had long gone. The estrangement between father and son, the incomprehension between husband and wife, these contradictions have no solution in front of the Ralph who has no way to face his own aging and disease. He wanted to leave early to face death alone and did so. Just under a strange combination of circumstances, there is a chance of rebirth, and Ralph have a new understanding of life, make up for the mistake, let life no longer leave a regret.

The movie ends in the old man's serene sleep, looking perfect. Thinking about the aging trend in European society and even in our own society, Whether all the old man can enjoy a peaceful in their old time , can like the poem said“Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at the close of day.”

Good night stands for death，not go gentle into that good night is a choice, a kind of attitude, we hope all the old people can live actively，then brave ground to the end of life.

今晚看的英国剧情片That Good Night片名翻译成《那般良夜》，也相当传神。结尾处苍老、疲惫又倔强的声音诵读托马斯的《不要温顺地走进那个良夜》，特别触动人心。 温柔的对待死亡，那般良夜。老爷子在最后的时光与儿子和解，孙儿出生，安静的逝去，honey推荐的电影，说葡萄牙的阳光很明媚，却有一丝感伤，害怕暮年爱人离我而去，也希冀年老时依旧相爱相知，可以说你这个狡猾的小老头呀。

威廉赫特演了一个自私了一辈子的作家。

年轻时才华横溢/风流不羁，未婚生子，只给钱，不联系。

六十岁的时候心脏病发作，感念死亡的临近，娶了一个护士，这是爱吗？根本不是，只是为了方便照顾自己。开篇第一句就引用了富兰克林的名言，人离不开三件事，死亡，税，护士。他为什么不给媳妇儿生娃，就是因为生了娃，媳妇儿就转移注意力了，他要独占这美丽年轻的肉体。

等到八十多岁，真的要死了，他惶恐了，他希望即便是死亡，也要在家人和亲情的环绕下去死。为什么不告诉媳妇儿自己的诊断结果，阴暗一点想，那不就是因为他害怕之前的爱慕会变成嫌弃/厌恶。

好吧，他是个自私到极点的作家，儿子出生，为了庆祝生日给自己买了块劳力士，到最终已经没有时间了，就把手表送给儿子。靠着版税，住在葡萄牙南部靠近大西洋的地方，享受着地中海气候，剧里有提到，10月的时候小溪会干涸，儿媳预产期是10月，还有六个月，那现在就是3月，正是地中海气候冬季温暖多雨的季节，电影里也有晚上下雨的场景，所以，多么优渥的生活啊。

但无可厚非，这生活是他自己靠着自己的脑力劳动创造的，所以他看不起儿子的女朋友，搞迎来送往的接待工作。

最终，他终于懂得了妥协，不去理会其他人不好的部分，只欣赏其他人好的部分，然后幸福的死了。

英国诗人狄兰托马斯，曾有一首著名的诗作《不要温和地走进那个良夜》，写给他病危的父亲。 他在诗中对死亡充满怒火，对生命满是怜惜，替弥留的父亲呐喊，不要轻易向死亡妥协，哪怕人生最后的关头也要抗争。 在他看来，面对死亡，不论是聪明的、善良的、狂暴的抑或严肃的人，都不要选择缄默、脆弱、悲伤、叹息之举。 都不要温顺地接受命运的安排，要咆哮，要燃烧，要怒斥。 全诗对死亡的愤恨与无奈交织，表现出强烈的对比冲击，也引人无限感叹深思。

因为电影，知道了这诗的全文 Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of the day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they, Do not go gentle into that good night. Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Wild men, who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way, Do not go gentle into that good night. Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray. Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light.